As a former addict I understand this and 90% of the time I accept it but I’m in the 10% right now and it’s frustrating as all hell.
I wrote an extensive backstory to this (and hopefully the purge will help me be more supportive when one of my 2 wayward angels calls).
Yes I know how futile it would be and no I'll not go to an Al-anon meeting.
I'll move slowly back into acceptance or distance depending on the route each loved one chooses to take.
I wish I had the perfect words but I don't...sh!t is the one that comes most easily to mind.