Is forgetting apart of the grieving process? I no longer think of my MomMom. I just can't or don't want to. I feel tears well up in my eyes. I can't listen to her last voicemail when she sang 'Happy Birthday' for my 16th. I don't want to think of Martin Luther King Jr. Day when she died. I don't want to remember my mother's astonished face when she opened the door for me. Especially when she said I couldn't come since she didn't want me to remember my grandmother skinny and dying. I don't want to think about how I forgot to say "I love you" for the last time. And I sure as hell don't want to cry anymore. I just want to sit at the dining room table to talk about Royal Doulton or hear about Oklahoma.