Initially frustrating, and maybe still so. Call it a "modern family headache."
I had this wonderful plan for today when my ex throws a wrench in it this morning with a request he could've made at least a week ago. And, because I value the time he spends with the kids (sometimes, it feels, more than he does), I begin the juggle. Child #1's plans adapt only slightly; Child #2's plans cut out the relaxation time to make time with dad, and I have to change transportation arrangements for him. Child #3's plans for today move earlier, and her plans for Tuesday have to be cancelled (grrrr) so I can be available for Child #1, 2.
What do I get out of this? Child #2 yells at me for being stressed this morning. Child #1 is apologetic (which she doesn't need to be) and Child #3 is oblivious... for now.
Plus I adapted all my plans for today, and lost several hours with my kids.
But, hey, I got a "Thanks" via text from the ex. He has no idea what I juggled -- probably doesn't care. He got what he wanted, and I am sure that there is some way whatever I have done will be inadequate. (history tells me this is true)
I wonder if this morning's scenario is a sign that I am too inflexible or too nice. I don't know; but either way, I find myself pondering if there's something wrong with me. And I feel like I probably shouldn't feel that way.