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Dear Uncle Bob & Aunt Elsie,
Let me express my condolences concerning Aunt Kitty's passing. She was an interesting, complicated person, as are most people in our family. I will not be attending "the services", as you call them, for several reasons. Your handling of my grandfather's funeral when I was 14 still haunts me at almost 50. I receive no satisfaction in looking at a dead body. I receive no comfort in hearing a fire & brimstone spiel from a guy in a collar who never met Kitty and is merely regurgitating the same crap he spewed at some other poor slob's funeral a week ago for $50. This whole "supporting family" charade is bullshit, as none of us have seen each other or even communicated for over 20 years. You will not guilt me into attending so I can listen to your moronic Southern platitudes and then watch you gorge yourselves on the buffet special at Bob Evans. I will remember my aunt in the way that is personal to me and will not have her memory tainted by your antiquated crapfest. Sincerely, Mary Beth