Women have lists of what they want in a man. I was a child of divorce and I had no wish, no list. I just knew that I DIDN'T want what my mother had in her husband, the man I once called dad. I was determined to get my college degree, take care of myself and be independent. I was somewhat broken and I was in college when I met James, my soulmate. I never went looking in the haystack. The needle just rolled out and landed right in front of me. I had more than any woman I know had in a man. Beautiful, loving, encouraging, nurturing, inspiring, smart, funny, athletic, etc. I have watched many women looking for Mr. Right. It actually took me a few years to even let my guard down enough to know that what I had was something rare. I had the needle in the haystack.