Saw a co-worker who I have not seen in about 6 months. He, like me, is a physical, athletic type. At one point, he placed his hand on my back in a most comforting manner. Just a little longer than usual with a slight rub and a firm placement. He never said one word to me about James. That touch said everything. "I am worried about you, I feel helpless to ease your pain and I know you are suffering deeply."