On the advice of my grief counselor, I have started socializing with our Bike Club after 8 months. As I do not have a lot of family in SD, it is comforting to be around people who knew and loved James almost as long as I did. Good therapy. However, recently, some members of the opposite sex are taking the fact that I am rejoining the world again as a sign that I am somehow ready to fill my vacant heart. This isn't like a job opening. It may never happen.