A beautiful person/man helped me with my computer when I was struggling and at my low point after James died. He was kind and generous with his time and emotions. Having been a foster child who was abused, he could tolerate the very dark moments in my healing process. He always knew exactly what to do and often held me like a child when I cried. We were not a good long-range match as a couple. However, in my grief, I became attached to him. He wisely kept my subtle advances at arm's length. He listened to stories of my love and pain over losing James. After months of this, it hit him that the woman who he had left behind who had wanted to marry him (he lived in Australia) was someone he wanted to marry. My stories made him brave enough to take the leap. He helped me heal and did not take advantage of my vulnerability, which he could have done. I now have a friend for life and I love and care for him deeply. I hope to make a new friend in his fiance.