I am a stepmother to two teenagers and have no children of my own. We have had full custody of them for a year and I do all the "mom" things for them... cook, shop, help with school work, teach to drive, go to sporting events that I find terribly boring, buy cell phones for, take to school and doctor's appointments, etc., etc. Do I get recognition? No, because I am not the mom. Their mother is an abusive alcoholic and yet they idolize her while I am simply a stepmom.