We recently had dinner with some long time friends (we met in Mommy & Me with our two year old sons who are now 16.) She is Jewish he is 'not.' Before they married, they agreed to raise their children Jewish (he wanted them to have a faith based construct, but care what it was) and 'celebrate' all the Christian holidays. My husband asked them each how much of their 'bargain' they felt they 'stuck to' and each replied separately 100%, but then he added. \"but I made that bargain from a place of ignorance, I didn't know I was committing to $$$ Bar Mitzvah or a $$ confirmation trip to Israel (from which their son had only recently returned) to which she replied,\"no one ever said it's cheap to be Jewish.\"