I’m the father of an 19-month-old boy (we’ve pictured here in my very early daddyhood days and I’m wearing my “So much crying; the baby, too” T-shirt) and have have experienced an enormous parenting learning curve, both from my own daily life and in talking to other parents. I’m inspired to share this knowledge and hungry to take in tips from others. Still, there’s little time to do so in today’s busy lives. What to do? I’ve begun doing what I already do best: seeking and sharing advice in six-word bites.
So here’s the challenge for rookie and experienced moms and dads: share your best six-word advice on being a parent—something you’ve learned yourself or from others.
The more specific and surprising the advice the better. Skip the general platitudes (you know, all that “Love them more than you know” and “They really grow up so fast” stuff) and dig into the weird and in its own way useful lessons you’ve learned along the way. My friend Zoe Allen advises, “Treat infants like terrorists: no negotiating,” while the so-cool mom blogger Rebecca Woolf) suggest, “Not breastfeeding? May as well lie.” The New Yorker’s Ben Greenman says: “Buy goldfish, which die, as lessons.”
Share your Six Words of Mom or Dad advice in the comments here, or over on our Facebook page. Who knows? Your advice could end up being put to excellent use by confused (and exhausted) parents across the world.
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Believe
Baby steps are for parents, too.
Contemplative
Cushion the blows. Wipe the nose.
Patrick Sauer
Terrible twos assuaged by benevolent bourbons.
Level1
Advice for parents with older children:
Let them go to let them be.
maryjane31
Your child deserves good old-fashioned respect.
maryjane31
Children like radar in sensing emotions.
maryjane31
Parents; enjoy learning to play again.
Elke Blinick
It get’s easier after the 2nd.
Ronnie
Grasping the toy means releasing the couch.
canadafreeze
May as well play. No returns.
zsuzsa
Parenting: days are long, years short.
PatriciaD
eat,sleep,poop, not just baby!
favepeep
Remember: children are sponges, not sieves.
Catherine
Laugh, play, and read every day.
Kelly
They’ll remember the love, not possessions.
scriBBlingscriBe (teRi)
Walk your talk. Play. Pray. Stay.
Vicki Erwin
They grow up fast so enjoy.
scriBBlingscriBe (teRi)
Abounding love will conquer inevitable mistakes.
Bburri
Teach them not to need you.
Shutt2u
Days are long. Years are short.
John Roedel
Don’t ever make parenting about you.
favepeep
Divert! Distract! Most underutilized parenting techniques.
teRi
Young offspring make great ‘go fors’!
HopeInPain
Yes, Mom and Dad, advice, please?
You'll Make It
Breastfeeding’s worth it. Get good support.
jermball30
Build character. Sometimes, let them fail.
favepeep
At their worst, love them best.
kerstin
When feeling burdened,
find the Funny.
kerstin
Forgive yourself for
mistakes; Baby will.
zsuzsa
Catch falls, catch hugs, catch naps.
Robin Slick
They grow up but you don’t.
DynamicDbytheC
“Don’t have children.” Felt like burden.
Tahji
Remind them you are always there.
zsuzsa
Had three kids: kerplink, kerplank, kerplunk:
1st–amateur, 2nd–professional, 3rd–automatic.
Patti H
Worries never stop. Spending never stops.
gone
Relax, enjoy. Perfect parenting’s impossible.
gone
I meant:
Relax, get sleep. Perfect parenting’s impossible:)
maryjane31
Say good-by to luxury of sleep.
maryjane31
First fever. He survived. I didn’t.
maryjane31
Kindergarten. Free tissues provided for parents.
rhinelander
It’s ok if they get tattoos.
maryjane31
Want peaceful dinner? Afternoon nap essential.
Emily s
Ego does not help at all.
favepeep
Assume they’re eavesdropping, just in case.
canadafreeze
It’s just hair, and it grows.
Undermom
Don’t waste No’s on trivial stuff.
Undermom
Remember, it’s their body, not yours.
Undermom
Be kind. Remember your own childhood.
Undermom
If you’re stressed, so is child.
favepeep
Hold hands until they let go.
maryjane31
Buy toys. But buy YOUR favorites!
BA_Miracle
Use information for choices not judgments.
bevvie
Play games and let them win.
julie
Imagine the future and love them
julie
Try to memorize their beauty carefully
julie
breathe breathe breathe breathe breathe breathe
julie
don’t even try to be perfect
ChristinaK
Don’t listen to other parents’ advice.
Candace Hill
Cheese and crackers is a meal.
favepeep
Sing silly songs, teach nursery rhymes.
Amanda A.
Pee on remotes, never suffer Caillou.
Kelli
Hard work but worth every sacrifice.
marymc
You’ll hate them. Always love them.
favepeep
Public humiliation is a big no-no.
Tracey
Get babysitter, sanity requires time away.
Tracey
Teen slam doors? Take off hinges.
Mrs W
Mothers of boys buy disposable gloves.
treehugger
Someday you’ll cherish these sleepless nights.
treehugger
Always have camera within arm’s reach.
Contemplative
Grandparent’s number on speeddial. Takeout’s too.
Contemplative
Screaming matches: Forfeit before you lose.
Contemplative
Screaming matches: Forfeit before lose voice.
treehugger
Censor yourself. Swearing’s less cute eventually.
bevvie
Learn from children. They’re often right!
bevvie
Please don’t buy your children clowns.
maryjane31
Buy several pacifiers. Ignore “Child Experts.”
JAD
Laugh with them and laugh loud.
favepeep
Teach empathy. Model empathy. Be empathetic.
JAD
Pray that the boys will clean.
favepeep
Penelope Leach: parenting sage and scholar.
maryjane31
Car seats. Difficult to figure out.
Journaler
Kids all grown are still kids.
Seraphina_Lullaby
“Don’t have kids.” Gee, thanks Mom.
wayword_angel
Black sheep make great pet projects.
Bullitt
Girls should mow. Boys should sew.
Bullitt
Love the naughty queer ones most.
favepeep
Son preferred yes/no answer to maybe.
favepeep
Get down to their level. Literally.
favepeep
Chronicle quirky comments and comical observations.
Redx3
Follow through on promises and punishments.
Redx3
Make the rule: try it once.
Redx3
There are never too many Legos.
Redx3
Your floor will never be cleaner.
LLW
Never say “Hate you”. Stings forever
LLW
They are children; not miniature adults
treehugger
You teach them. They teach you.
treehugger
There’s already a you. Encourage individuality.
treehugger
Teach how to think, not what.
treehugger
Carrot purée stains everything it touches.
treehugger
First born is really just practice.
JAD
Love your kids more than pets.
maryjane31
Remember kids put everything in mouth.
bevvie
Never put kids on reality shows!
maryjane31
Parenthood; not what you were expecting.
favepeep
Children never walk a straight line.
favepeep
Don’t be too big to apologize.
Shaunyata
Don’t overindulge, except love and hugs.
jermball30
Your gut usually trumps magazine experts.
favepeep
Wake sleeping baby. Pay the price.
favepeep
Don’t leave 2-yr-old alone with kitten.
lavidasuburbia
They can walk? They can work. (Vicki Hoefle)
treehugger
Cut their nails while they’re sleeping.
JAD
They will criticise what you wear.
The Prosperous Artist
Teach them to feel their feelings.
The Prosperous Artist
Life teaches better than you. Relax.
treehugger
Fasten Velcro on bibs before washing.
sharon
don’t do it! oops, too late!
canadafreeze
Stroke forehead gently. Works both ways.
TeaTopper
If you’re wicked, skip step parenting.
dellavina
cranky baby = hungry, poop, tired, attention
JAD
Younger children, home alone, no no!
favepeep
Face in mirror while yelling. Telling.
ctgoods2
It’s only hair. Let it be.
ctgoods2
Swallow your ego before they do.
maryjane31
Sing to them. Calms them unfailingly.
The Prosperous Artist
Their taste will differ from yours.
jojomcchesney
Visit with them while they sleep.
edunne
Calm always wins, anger rarely does.
JAD
You’ll never be free of them.
missbrandylee
Face your fears, then dismiss them.
elobe5
Momma always says “don’t sign anything.”
Dean6805
Snot won’t kill you. Poop might.
Dean6805
Embarrass them in public whenever possible.
maryjane31
A rocking chair calms you both.
rabbithole
Rattles work for rattled adults too.
jeanne
Don’t despair, Cheerios is a side.
Skybluewaters
Read your baby… not the book…
JAD
Don’t ask stork for too many.
Kali
Take lots of photos, time flies!
Reg
Step back and let kids fail.
Kali
Smother them with culture, music, travel.
Kali
Only have as many as affordable.
zsuzsa
Take time for a family hug.
Pseudonym_Girl
Warm the Wipes. Cold isn’t cool.
Julie H
Ignored family advice – enjoyed messy child.
Steelponypoet
My dad said, “should have raised pigs, not kids, you can always eat pigs”.
kriscard
your job: love, support, guide them.
kriscard
the best you can do: love them.
maryjane31
I let my boys get dirty.
MichaelSolomon
All great actors began with tantrums.
Whelp
Differentiate your child’s life from yours.
lisatry
They won’t appreciate you until later.
lisatry
Advice from teens’ peers counts more.
Andrea
Singing and dancing over poop. REALLY!
Andrea
PARENTING: Best excuse to play again.
Andrea
Let babies cry sometimes. They’ll survive!
Andrea
Remember, children learn what they live.
favepeep
Children: small people with big feelings.
favepeep
Be in charge but don’t bully.
Helen Davis
cranberry juice, cream carpet, big mess.
JAD
They know you better than you.
JAD
You’re young, but they think old.
Clairee
Twins; mistakes on first AND second…..
Clairee
Threats, bribes – depends on my mood
Clairee
Read Bettelheim’s The Uses of Enchantment
Clairee
It’s not your hearing; teenagers mumble
Clairee
Exchange them for an older model?
Clairee
Kids are always interrupting, @#%$!, not….
MissTChristine
Mom/Dad advice? Don’t. Have. Kids.
Vicky
Because I said so, that’s why.
ECSxGreed
Know your enemy, divide and conquer!
sisterpoet
Age 16, he still needs hugs
JAD
These days taking naps is abusive.
L2l3
Reduce guilt. Add carrots to ramen.
L2l3
Reduce trauma’s terror. Buy red washcloths.
JAD
Watch wee wee for pee pee.
Practical
If pacifiers calm baby, use them!
Practical
Buy immersion blender to disguise veggies.
Practical
Let them choose their own clothes.
Everything else is decided by you.
Besides, they get to express personality.
Practical
Recognize the signs. Preempt the tantrum.
favepeep
Lovey: stress soother and security giver.
favepeep
Movies overwhelm young children. Stay home.
lukkiecharm
Yes, even your children lie sometimes.
lukkiecharm
They will copy everything you do.
lukkiecharm
You cannot change who they become.
lukkiecharm
If you’re pregnant, you’re already Mom.
lukkiecharm
Create your memories to be ageless.
lukkiecharm
Chopped spinach looks exactly like parsley.
Muttilili
Before you know it, they’re grown.
Erica Conway
Remember they are little human beings.
favepeep
Don’t make unreasonable or ridiculous threats.
favepeep
Don’t set them up to fail.
favepeep
Only children are awesome. Ask mine.
favepeep
Fact: you can’t spoil a baby
Katevm
Get on the floor and play.
Sdselamat
For quick recharge, inhale baby smell.
Jazzmom
Warning: sniff test reveals unbrushed teeth.